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You may have noticed I no longer allow comments on individual posts.
At some point this blog became more about me getting feedback and finding a sense of self-worth through comments than the actual recovery process. I wanted to have a popular blog, one with a lot of readers to validate my opinions and feelings. I felt elated when I received an inbox full of comments and deflated when I didn't. So, in an act of haste (which I am prone to) I deleted all comments and disabled the option to comment.
There is a certain amount of freedom in posting a blog entry without waiting for comments, but I also realized something very important: healing takes place in community. Commenting allows people to interact with my story, to share their insight and offer support. We grow better together!
And I want to know about you too. Are you in recovery? Do you write a blog? Can I read it?
So this is my happy medium. I will put a permanent link to this post at the top of my blog and if something I have written inspires you to talk back then you can do so here!
Thanks for being part of my recovery :)
8 Comments:
Hi Michelle. i'm ally, i've been sober since April 29th, 2009. i've read your blog for a couple of years now-- i think i found it via Google one night when i was close to relapse. Your blog has been a source of encouragement and inspiration to me, so thank you. i keep a blog (well, i try to; writer's block has gotten the best of me these past several months) at aredemptionofhope.blogspot.com-- feel free to swing by. Again, thank you for your courage to speak out about your recovery. Peace
Hey Ally, I see our sober dates are very close! I've been browsing your blog. It's great. I also see we have a mutual love for The Jayhawks :) Now, I think I'll go back to your blog and continue this conversation over there...
Hi Michelle, I read your blog whenever you post. I have a blog, feel free to read it, I think you may have before?
I have wanted to thank you for suggesting the book, "Abba Father", I love it. Never got around to thanking you after I read it and then I didn't see you blogging....
ps - I am in alanon recovery. have been for about 6 years.
Hi Marsha, yes I do remember reading your blog! I'm so glad you liked the book. I loved it too. Six years is fantastic. I feel so much better after two years, I can only imagine the healing and freedom that takes place after six :)
Hi Michelle, Thank you for your wonderfully inspiring blog. I'm in recovery from alcoholism, bipolar disorder, and domestic violence. The recovery process for each is similar, and I'll be sharing it more and more in my blog at: soniaamundsen.blogspot.com Drop by if you're interested. Keep up the great writing!
I too used to blog for all the wrong reasons. I remember visiting the site of a girl whose blog ID was transience. I was taken by how many people both visited and left comments on her blog. She was, and probably still is, very talented - a gifted writer. She would get up to 100 comments.
Then I too started getting similar amounts of comments but in truth the whole blog things was more a case of me saying nice things to them to encourage them to reciprocate.
Now I write what i want without thought of others just laying down my truth as I see it.
I have never been addicted to anything even though I spent my formative years in the company of alcoholics and drug users. I tend to resent the fact I HAVE to take drugs to keep me alive and so don't really understand why my mates did it for fun.
Your bare bone honest approcah if both a light to tothers like you and an eye opener for guys like me.
Bless you.
Sonia - thanks so much for the + feedback and sharing a little of your story. I look forward to reading your blog. Sorry it took me so long to respond! I've been in the UK for the past month so I haven't been checking in online much.
Russel - maybe the desire for feedback is a common reaction or "stage" that bloggers go through. After a while, your reasons for blogging change and the satisfaction comes from a different source! I like what you said, about what I share being "a light" and "an eye opener" -high praise indeed. Thank-you :)
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